My Divorce Experience Part 2
As previously stated in my last post, my mother’s parents divorced when she was four years old. Both of her parents remarried, and this week’s post is about her father’s second marriage. There is a lot to learn from this remarriage and how you need to prepare for the unforeseen circumstances.
During my grandparent’s first divorce, the agreement stated my mother and her two brothers would live with both parents. This was a little difficult since my grandmother lived in Maryland and my grandfather lived in New York, but they made it happen. My mother would typically spend summers in New York with her father and his parents, which she loved to do. Not long after his divorce, he remarried a successful physical therapist, who was about 15 years younger than he was. Now my grandfather was way past the point of wanting more children, but for his new wife he made an exception. They ended up having a daughter together.
Another part of the divorce agreement is for my grandfather to pay for my mother’s college. Unfortunately, life happens and tragedy strikes my mother during her sophomore year in college. Her brothers come to visit her and to tell her in person that her father has passed away from a heart attack. So my mother and her brothers are dealing with the loss of their father, and then find out he didn’t have a will in place.
Everything of my grandfather’s goes to his wife, who refuses to help pay for my mother’s college. When I say everything went to her step-mother, I mean my mother’s grandmother’s house, her father’s antique sword and gun collection, and so many other things you can’t replace. My mother works through college and takes out some student loans and finishes college all on her own.
So you see every family has a little crazy in them, it’s not just yours.
There are some very important and crucial lessons to learn from her father’s remarriage and here is my checklist of items:
If you have some lessons you or someone you know learned, please share them with me by emailing at Jessica.firstname.lastname@example.org. Sharing our experiences and the silver linings we’ve found, can only help others going through a similar tough time.
Jessica Weaver, CFP®, CDFA™, CFS®
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