How would you like to organize your ENTIRE life? Does it sound a little daunting of an undertaking? Probably since everyone I talk with would love to organize and simplify their life, BUT very few actually will do it. Very few will create a plan, implement their plan, and stick with it. So I started to wonder why do we all, or most of us, want a different type of life, but very little of us actually do something about it.
Do you know the answer? I’d love to hear it!
After posing this question to several women, it seems, we all want it but without the hard work. We are TOO busy to simplify our life, which in the end would make us less busy. Seems a little silly when I put it that way, doesn’t it? It’s like when we are dealt with the question of investing in ourselves and our lives. It will cost you time and money up front, but what if you got all of your money back…times 10? Would it be worth it to you? Let’s say you invest $5,000 into your life to get organized, focused, motivated, and you start spending less, saving more, and earning more. Would that be worth it to you? What if I add in more confidence, happiness, and satisfaction from your life? The women I work with would say YES and Yes please!
If you invest money into your life, will you be more dedicated to your goal? Most likely. If you invest your precious time into your life, will you be more accountable with your outcome and success? Probably. In the end, it is what you take out of your investment in yourself that counts. If you are doubting the investment, the process, or your coach the entire time, then guess what your results will be? Pretty lousy. But what if you take action each step of the way, no matter how scared you are or uncomfortable you are? If you believe in the steps and the outcome, then you will most likely get the outcome you are yearning for. Our behaviors fall right in line with our beliefs, so once we start changing our beliefs, our actions follow, and we see some success. This only fuels more beliefs and more actions, which gets you what? MORE success!
I can tell you from experience the pay off from investing in yourself. In the fall of 2016, I invested in a coach to help me continue my growth as an advisor and as a person. Now I say I invested in her because at the time that is what I thought, but really I invested in myself since I was getting the huge benefits. And this is what I tell the women I work with, they aren’t investing in me, they are investing in themselves.
If you have a limiting belief about working with me, it’s really your limiting belief about yourself. That maybe you won’t be as committed as you’d like to be. Maybe you don’t believe you are worth the change. And to me, this is the saddest and hardest thing to overcome. It tears me a part when people don’t see the value I see in them, that they don’t believe their life is worth the change. I’ll spend extra time with them to try to help them get over this hump, but sometimes it is not enough. They might come back to me months or years later, and I always say “You should want it for yourself as much as I want it for you.” Those are the women who get the biggest transformations and the best results.
However, the issue most people deal with, is they don’t like being uncomfortable or scared. You’re going to a party, and you don’t know anyone besides the hostess. You’re probably trembling in your stilettos, right? Who are you going to talk with the whole party? Will people like you?? What do I do when that awkward moment comes, and I’m by myself in the corner??? At least, these are the thoughts that cross my mind as I’m trembling just thinking about it! But isn’t everything we want outside of our comfort zone? Otherwise, everyone would have their dream job, big house, and amazing family, everything they’ve ever wanted.
Can you think of one time when you went outside your comfort zone, and came out better than ever? You hit a new goal because of it? Think about it for a second. What motivated you to take that leap of faith? Was it worth it for you?
I’ve had hundreds, maybe even thousands of times I’ve gone outside my comfort zone in the past year or two. When I created my first women’s event for Transitioning Women in the fall of 2015. I was terrified, what if no one comes? What if I’m so boring people start to fall asleep or leave? What if it is a complete failure, and I can never show my face again in public?? But I went through it anyway, and it was a great event. We had about 20 women, and I got all the women to openly share about their transition, both the hard times and good times. What a success! And because of the success and feedback from it, I’ve now had 7 more events. I overcame my discomfort and fear, and was able to help and engage more women with their money. Thank goodness I got outside my comfort zone!
Another big and terrifying thing I did was start this blog. Again I had so many horrible beliefs about why it is a bad idea to start one. What if no one reads it, what if I really am a terrible writer, what if… If I never stepped outside my comfort zone, I’d never have thousands of readers a week. I’d never be able to touch so many women’s lives and give them some joy, knowledge, and motivation with their finances.
And how about spending money on my coach? I couldn’t be happier to have spent that much money, funny isn’t it? The impact it’s had on my mindset, behaviors, and success is amazing. I’m so happy I keep stepping out of my comfort zone, otherwise none of this would be possible. I wouldn’t have a blog with 10,000 readers a week, a book coming out, and a career where I get to impact and empower women. Because I love being scared and taking risks so much, here is my step by step guide to getting out of that pesky comfort zone we all love to hide in:
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