In our last We Are Women post, I thought it was appropriate to end with the following quote:
“It’s a great satisfaction knowing that for a brief period in time you made a difference.”
Isn’t that the point to our lives, that we have made a positive difference in someone’s life? Whether it’s your own life, your children’s, your family’s, your loved ones, or whomever’ s life you’ve been able to touch. I am writing this post the day after my first book signing of my #1 International Best Seller: Strong Woman Stronger Assets. And I thought it was a very fitting post to follow up my presentation from the event since below was my speech for it:
iI was driving home the other day and a Miley Cyrus song came on. And as any Miley Cyrus song would, I started thinking about my life to new depths. I had my dog next to me, our baby girl in my belly going to see my husband and the home we have built together. And I thought this is what it is all about. It isn't about more money, it is about finding happiness and peace in our lives. It's about uncovering what drives you, what your asset is. Just like the title of my book Strong Woman Stronger Assets, Assets is whatever you are working so hard for. It's not to earn more money or save more money, it's about the lives you can change with that extra money. It's about having no stress over how we are going to afford this baby, college down the road, and her wedding. And helping women gain control and confidence in their life is what fulfills me and gives me great happiness.
I committed to writing this book the day after I found out I was pregnant. And something about being pregnant made me think about what kind of role model I am going to be to this little girl. Obviously we didn't know she was a girl yet, but it was probably destined. Being able to tell our girl I've been able to change women's lives and be a positive influence on them is such a great feeling. Our baby along with other young women and girls are a part of a movement where more women are controlling the wealth, more women are owning their own businesses, and more women are becoming executives and CEOs. And it all starts with gaining control over your money, getting confidence for the next chapter of your life, and clarity over what it is you really want, what will bring you happiness.
So let’s start the process and get you towards your own happiness. Let me ask you, who here has things in their life they’d love to get rid of? And who has stuff they’d love to add to their life?
We all have pieces we need to shred from our lives, and we all have dreams and goals we want to get to someday. What I want for you is to get to those dreams sooner than later and start taking action today to get them. We all become a prisoner to “maybe one day,” maybe one day I can travel, maybe one day in retirement I can exercise, maybe one day if I win the lottery I can help my family. One day, but not today. Well I say why not today? Let’s get to the core of what it is you really want, put a plan together, and take action. It all comes down to living your self-worth and opening up your eyes to what your life is worth to you. Let’s level up your life tonight!
So when you go home tonight, open your book to chapter 3 and think about 3 items you want to discard from your life and 3 things you want to add to your life today!
This is the first step toward getting the life you want to live. If you don’t think about it, if you don’t write it down, it will never happen. You will never take a step toward getting it. And it is your asset. Remember assets isn’t just money, it’s whatever change you are working so hard for. Maybe it’s telling your daughter as she tries on her dream wedding dress, “honey, I got this, don’t worry about the price.” Or “Telling your boss you quit because you are starting your own business, that you found your dream job.”
So what is your asset?
Now who likes to procrastinate? Who loves it especially when the thing they’re avoiding overwhelms them?
This is what I’ve found with money, most people are overwhelmed by it so they steer clear of it. This book breaks it down in a relatable fashion so you can understand why it is so important to take charge of your money. I interviewed over 50 women for this book and for my blog to get stories to inspire you to take that first step toward getting the life you want.
And here is an exert from the book to give you an idea of how relatable I can make it:
Think of it another way. Let's say you have a wedding coming up, and you need to find a bombshell dress. One where the instant you put it on, you feel freaking fabulous. I know you know what I’m talking about. Hugs all the right curves, maybe forgiving in some other areas, and your date can’t stop staring at your butt. But before you find the dress, you commit yourself to losing a few pounds. So, you wait a few months to start looking, then a few months turns into a year, and still no dress. Finally, it is the night before the wedding, and you find yourself in a dead sweat in the dressing room with dozens of dresses but no contenders. Let me ask you, did procrastinating benefit you or endanger your chances of finding THAT dress? You’ll be showing up to the wedding in an old dress that probably has a stain on your back, maybe a hole under your armpit, and you'll hope no one notices. If this is the case just for a dress, imagine how procrastinating with your life and money can turn out for you.
In the book, we will create your own plan so you know exactly what to do and when to do it, which takes all the stress and anxiety out of your money. You will gain confidence to move forward, clarity over what it is you’re working for, and control over your money habits. Too many times you don’t realize how much your money habits are jeopardizing your success and in the end happiness. When you see your bank account at a new low or your debt at a new high, your happiness plummets, your self-worth falls, and you feel like you’ll never get to your goals. But, when you see your bank account climbing higher, you feel better, gain confidence and belief in yourself, and your account can start racing to new highs.
When we are in a dark place or going through a transition, we forget our self-worth. We tend to value ourselves very low and think, “This is what I deserve.” Your children, spouse, and families witness it, and will start thinking the same way. But it doesn’t have to be that way. We all have a critter part of our brain that tells us we aren’t worth it, that we suck. By knowing it’s there, we can address it and silence it. This along with other tweaks and adjustments you can make will get you to start living the life you want and the life you deserve. I will take you step by step to give you the knowledge you need to know about your money, open your eyes to different possibilities, and show you exactly what to do at the end of each chapter. Information is great, but if you don’t know what to do with it, then it is useless. Isn’t it? By giving you a call to action, it ensures you will get it done instead of wasting another year being “stuck.” As I say in Strong Woman Stronger Assets, I hope this book is the piece that enables it all to click into place when it comes to understanding your relationship with money, and that your world will start to shift in the same way it has for me over the past few years.
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